Saturday, 29 November 2014

Epiphany of Change

Last week I had a long overdue lunch with one of my mentors, who always manages to add some sunshine to my day.

Over the past few months I have experienced complete and utter exhaustion, being overwhelmed and anxious to the point where even I at times didn’t recognise myself!

Now a few months down the line I’m nowhere near ‘cured’ or free of the above, but I’m definitely on the path to a much better place.

Earlier this year I had a car accident, which in hindsight was the straw that thankfully broke the camel’s back. Unfortunately in this life its takes a negative and frightening experience to slap you about and tell you to wake the hell up to reality and that’s exactly what that accident did for me.

For almost the past 2 years of my life I have allowed myself to become so involved in my professional life by trying to keep up with those around me and what societies idea of what a young professional female should be, that I forgot about the most important person in my life… me! Sounds silly I know; how can I forget about me when I spend every single day with me? But this is easily done when you become so consumed with the day to day tasks of work and life that sometimes you forget to stop, breathe and take the time to take care of you. Well I had been doing that for longer than I can remember and when I finally realised that this is what I’d been doing, everything began to change.

As they say change is good, but what I have had to learn is that change is also flipping hard, especially when the change is so big that you know that every relationship in your life will change as a result of the changing of the relationship you have with yourself. This has been no easy ride and changes by the day, sometimes even by the hour. But with each day I have learned to understand it all a little more and accept it a little more, but here is what I learnt and understood last week with the help of my wonderful mentor.

With change there is always a loss and this is sometimes why change can feel uncomfortable. I also learnt that throughout life we have ways of doing things that have always served us well, but sometimes these things no longer serve us and this is ok. But when these things that we do and may have done for our entire lives, or the last decade of our lives no longer serve us, it’s ok to let them go, because there is no point in holding on to something that no longer works in our favour. Sometimes this can mean letting go of something that has become a part of you, but this doesn’t mean that you a losing yourself or even compromising who you are. It just means that you are making space and opening yourself up to something new that will serve you and will allow you to evolve, grow and develop in to the person who you are destined to be and that will help you flourish in your next chapter.

This is simple and deep down this was something that I already knew, but through having this casual lunch with my bubbly and supportive mentor, the penny finally dropped. By letting go and cleansing myself of certain habits and ways that I have always had does not mean that I am losing myself. It means that I am giving myself the permission and acceptance to grown into the person I need to be for the next stage of my life and I should not, regret, mourn or feel anger or fear towards this, instead I should embrace it and let it be.

These are just some of the lessons I learned last week that I wanted to share with you… There plenty more where they came from so I’ll do my best to share them with you when I can.

Love Sara. xxx

Monday, 29 September 2014

Monday Motivation

We live in a world where we are constantly being subconsciously and sometimes consciously moulded into what society, families, friends and even companies want us to be for many a different reasons, which basically all boil down to control.

Some people will never understand this or even realise that this is happening to them. Some people will realise it's happening but simply can't find the courage to confront it, where others will realise it, confront it and tell it to shove it where the sun don't shine!

By doing the latter, you will most certainly piss off a couple of people but hey, I say that's a small price to pay for breaking free and being true to yourself.

In today's world we have become so consumed by working hard and playing less that we have lost touch with the things that really matter.

One of the hardest challenges in this life (that ironically should be the easiest), is being true to who we are. This can be for a number of different reasons, but more than often I find that this is simply because who we really are, at our core, conflicts with the expectations that society has set for the human race.

So this week, (and for every week hereafter) I would like to ask you all to be true to yourself! Think about you and what makes you feel good, what makes you smile and what makes you feel free and what ever that is, find a way to bring it to life!

Image from Luna Belle

Be brave, be you and be free!

Have a great week y'all!

Tuesday, 14 January 2014

F.R.I.E.N.D.S Do we Really Need Them .... Hell Yes!!

Last week was a very trying week and my friends simply were my saviour.

Sometimes in life you need to be told about yourself, not in a nasty way but simply because you’re being too hard on yourself and sometime you need someone to talk to help you make sense of the things in your life that you just can’t figure out alone.

You should know something about me that I have only really discovered in the past year… I am an utter control freak and being the control freak that I am is currently ruining my life! Ok that was a little dramatic… It’s not ruining my life it’s just making my life harder than what it needs to be.

You see my problem is this, I know the beauty of living in the moment because I spent the better part of 2013 doing just that, but I also have this thing that I do which is called being overly ambitious. This is not a bad thing, but this usually leads to me setting my sights on something that I want to be or do, working my arse off to get it and then once I have it, not exploring it and then setting my sights on the next big thing. In short this means that I live a lot in the future which equals major anxiety. This is something that I am working on and at times I’m better at it than others. However for the past few weeks I have been failing miserably and this is where the help and support of good friends come in.

Over the Christmas my good amiga came home from uni and we had a blast! So much of a blast I didn’t realise how much I’d missed having a friend around who gets me in every way possible and best of all, is as honest as f*@#! Some people hate that, but I love it! It sets the real apart from the fake and there is nothing better that having friends that call it like they see it and believe me, that is exactly what she did.

To put it simply, my dear friend verbally shook some sense into me and helped me to remember that there is nothing wrong with having ambition and goals in life, but sometimes I just need to give myself a flipping break and acknowledge all of the great things I have already achieved and be proud of them. She also reminded me to live in the moment and to stop spending so much time worrying and trying to control the things in life that ultimately, I have no control over.

All in all, having great friends in life is a must! And I mean real friends, one’s like my good mate that I’ve just spent the last 400 odd words talking about. Friends that never judge you, friend that will still be your friend regardless of the choices you make so long as you remain true to yourself whilst making them, friends that will not only just listen to your problems, but friends who are down to help you find solutions to your problems even if means telling you to get your head out of your arse, but above all, friends that you can be your complete and utter self with and have a good old fashioned laugh about everything and nothing all at the same time!

Value you friends lovebugs… good ones are hard to find.
Love Sara (A little Lady with a Kick Ass friend called Arti!). xxx

Monday, 6 January 2014

Monday Motivation

For most of us today is the first day back at work after a the Christmas break and after two weeks of stuffing our faces, drinking (all kinds of flavoured whiskey) and being merry we probably just feel like we need an extra week to recover.. oui ou non?

In recent years I’ve worked hard on breaking the habit of using the new year as an excuse to start something new or make significant changes in my life, and while I still stand by this there is something to be said for reflecting at the end of a year and deciding what I want out of the new year which typically results in me and so many others hitting the ground running and forgetting exactly what we had set out to do by February!
But last year I decided that maybe if I kept my resolutions really simple it would work, so I made a small mental list of all the things I wanted to achieve in 2013 which consisted of finding a job that I was passionate about and could grow in (Check), to enjoy my hometown (check), to find the positive in every negative (check), to have fun (check) and the item on the list that overrode them all was to do whatever feels good for as long as it feels good and when it doesn’t, just stop (check).

So with the New Year already underway and continuing with some of the items from my 2013 list that worked a treat I’ve added a few more for 2014 that are kind of similar to what I found below

It’s always great to set goals and resolutions but the main thing to remember is that you don’t have to wait for a new year to begin to make changes. Start small with a thought and let your thoughts become your actions… remember Rome wasn’t built in a day.

Happy New Year love bugs and have a great week.

Love Sara. xxxx